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You Can’t Heal What You Don’t See

January 1, 2013 by Amy White 10 Comments

Welcome to 2013! If you are like me, you have taken some time to contemplate and review the past year. I like to do an inventory of what went well, what went askew and what, if anything, really went off the rails.  The good news is that most of the past year was pretty darn good; especially given the crisis I was in during the year prior. This past year found me coming out of the crisis, seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and creating this blog as a way to share my experiences and lessons learned with the entire Internet! (and by “entire Internet” I mean it went global with readership in nearly 30 countries to date!)

My intent for the blog from the start has been to be an expert of my story; to share tools I discovered and information I learned with those who are experiencing difficulties supporting a loved one with mental health challenges.  Through it, I found my voice, my passion and a strong desire to help others by sharing my story and advocating for improved services and better support. The experience has also been incredibly raw, scary and leaves me feeling quite vulnerable each time I publish a post to the blog.  Yet each time I do, it is met with positive feedback and gratitude and I know that I am making a difference.

As I think about where this journey will take me during 2013 and what my next steps are, I’ve had to take a long look at where I still have hurt and sadness that needs to be addressed as a result of my personal experiences with mental illness.  Sounds simple, but just because I know that I have to address some deep emotional feelings, doesn’t make it any easier to determine what I really need to look at and what I don’t see.

There is an old saying “you don’t know, what you don’t know”.  Right? Isn’t that the universal “get out of jail free card”? Or is it? As I think about it, I wonder if we really do not know or if we choose not to see it.  My guess is, for the most part (major trauma events excluded), the latter. I believe that, generally speaking, it is a choice not to recognize those things inside of us that cause us pain. I also realize that we, and more specifically I, have to be ready and willing to look at it before the healing can begin.  Even though I have done so much healing over this past 12 months, there are still parts of this story that have been too deeply painful for me to look at.  There is still so much heartbreak around not feeling as though I could help my son enough during his darkest days and I am still coming to terms with the sadness I feel when I think about his attempt to end his life.  There are also other deeply painful situations that I haven’t even started to look at, situations and experiences that broke my heart over and over again.

It’s easier to focus on the good stuff. My son has really come a long way these past 12 months. He has kept himself grounded and has not had any major crisis along the way. I have come to a place of “new normal” even though it is as polar-opposite from my old normal as I could possibly imagine.

I celebrate my son’s progress. I am grateful to see and be able to share that there is light and normalcy that comes after a crisis. The proverbial rainbow did show up after my storm and I am grateful.  However, I know that I need to continue to focus on the parts of me that are still in need of love and healing.  I believe that you can’t heal what you don’t see, but I am choosing to seek out those things, so that they can be healed.  I am not going to bury those hurts away, because ultimately, life has a way of “forcing” you to see the things that you do not want to see and I will have to face them sooner or later.  I am choosing sooner.

Thank you all for your continued support, your stories and your feedback!

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About Amy White

Amy White is an International Best Selling Author, Coach and Mental Health Advocate. She is a storyteller, a lover of words and a champion for mental health and wellness. A self-proclaimed square peg in a round world, Amy is learning to love all of the bits and pieces of her life and works to help others love theirs and find their way back to Paradise.

Comments

  1. ameliamims says

    January 1, 2013 at 11:13 am

    You are a very brave woman, FarFromParadise. Wishing you peace, balance and clarity in 2013.

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    • 1aew1 says

      January 1, 2013 at 11:24 am

      Thank you Amelia! Wishing you peace, joy and great blessings for 2013! All the best!

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  2. nikkiinheart says

    January 1, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    Amy, I applaud your courage because it does take courage to look at and deal with those things that reveal deep pain. Just remember, when we can’t seem to bring ourselves to deal with these things, we are in pain every single day until we do, so we aren’t ‘preventing’ the pain at all, just delaying it. You are an amazing woman and an inspiration to so many with your heartfelt writings. Sending love and light!

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    • 1aew1 says

      January 1, 2013 at 6:37 pm

      Thank you Nikki! I appreciate your comments and insight. Happy New Year!

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  3. Patti Fusco says

    January 8, 2013 at 11:07 pm

    Amy, you are one of the bravest women I know. I applaud you for the progress you have made, and have caused to be made in others. You will be completely healed, as completely as you can be, because you are facing those things that you don’t want to face. Keep it up.

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  4. Laurie Tschudi says

    January 19, 2013 at 6:50 am

    Amy, you are and continue to be an inspiration. I think we are told to be positive in our lives and that’s why we choose not to look at the hurt. However, you have put a new meaning to this by “being positive” to find and heal the pain.Blessings and light to you as you continue your journey.

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    • 1aew1 says

      January 19, 2013 at 11:31 pm

      Thank you Laurie! I agree, we need to give ourselves permission to feel what we feel and stop pretending that we have to be positive in all the moments of our life! Blessings to you!

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  5. Delia Rusu (@blogformatting) says

    July 10, 2014 at 9:54 pm

    What a great way of looking at things and deciding to stay positive no matter what. Life is a lot like that, I agree, Amy – seeking to understand is key. Blessings in your journey!

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    • Far From Paradise says

      July 10, 2014 at 9:56 pm

      Delia, thank you sincerely

      Reply

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